How The Environment Changer Program Works
Is Your Service Strictly Confidential?
Will the Environment Changer Program Conflict With My Religious Beliefs?
Does This Program Take a Psychological Approach?
What is the Difference Between the Environment Changer Program and Traditional Counseling?
Will I Be Speaking With Larry Bilotta Himself Or One Of His Marriage Translators?
Would You Recommend I Still See My Counselor While Participating in the Environment Changer Program?
Is an Internet Connection Required?
Does the Environment Changer Program Work With Couples Who Live Outside the USA?
Payment Questions
Where Can I Sign Up For Your Program?
What will the charge say on my billing statement?
Questions About Specific Marriage Situations
My Spouse Has Engaged In An Affair. Does Your Program Help Couples Overcome Infidelity?
Does Your Program Help With Second Marriage Problems?
We Are Engaged To Be Married. Will Your Program Help Us?
For The Slightly Skeptical
What is the Success Rate of this Program with a Single Spouse Participating Alone?
How Do I Know Your Program Really Works?
Does This Program Really Work?
What Percent Of Those Who Take The Course Revert Back To Old Behaviors/Patterns Over Time?
What Is A Marriage Translator And How Well Qualified Are They?
Q) Is Your Service Strictly Confidential?
A) With exception to group Tele-Coaching, when you are working with a Marriage Translator, no one else is involved with your learning process. Your phone calls are completely private. The particulars of your situation are held in the strictest confidence and we take this very seriously. Your private life is your business and your Translator lives by this philosophy.
Q) Does This Program Take a Psychological Approach?
A) There is one major problem with psychology. Its words and labels create a vast canyon of separation between psychologists and the rest of us. Psychologists primarily seem to struggle to get to the point and show little ability to make the complex simple. Our approach explains the truth about how people are wired emotionally and does it in a way that anyone can understand.
Q) Besides Your Own Life Experiences, What Do You Base Your Foundation For Helping Others? What Source Do You Build Your Belief System On?
A) The material delivered in the Environment Changer Program is based on the most recent research discovered about the brain and emotions. For example, what you’ll learn is supported by Daniel Goleman’s well-researched book Emotional Intelligence. The contents of this program are also supportive of the Christian faith and many couples with this world view have said that the program deepened their faith.
Q) Are Your Methods Reliable? I Need Accountability In Moving Forward To Improve My Struggling Marriage.
A) One of the most important keys to The Environment Changer Program is accountability. Throughout the entire program, you’ll learn about your most positive motivations, how your childhood affects your marriage and how to eliminate your negative feelings. Your Translator will assist you in setting specific goals that are focused on how you will become true to yourself, while you let go of the insecurities that create self-centered behavior. If you want to grow or move forward in your marriage, you will need to learn how to be happy with yourself. The Environment Changer Program will help you do exactly that.
Q) My Spouse Has Told Me "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You Anymore." Is There Any Hope For Us Or Is It Already Too Late?
A) This is one of the most popular questions we get… “Is it too late?”
Very often the spouse that wants to save the marriage waits far too long, doing all the wrong things they were programmed to do from their parents that end up destroying their marriage just like their father/mother did before them.
If you waited too long, then it’s not about the marriage anymore. It’s about whether you want that person in your life again. If the two of you have children, you will always be connected, so it’s up to you if you want to get a new
relationship started. Don't think about divorce or no divorce, because divorce is now just a formality.
You should know however, that many people give up too soon, assuming their spouse has reached the point where they are emotionally dead, when they have not yet reached that point. When a spouse has reached that point, it is business as
usual. He or she has made the decision to divorce, cleaned out the bank accounts, and is barely recognizable as the person you married. They are indifferent about the marriage and have moved from the stage where they are not sure what
they want to the phase where they’ve made up their mind and "the kids will be fine".
If your spouse is at the phase where s/he is emotionally dead, the question you need to ask yourself is "Do I want this woman/man?"
There is a way to bring your spouse back to you once again, even after the legal marriage is over. That's because this is not about marriage. Marriage is a legal structure for society to operate. This is not about saving that structure,
it is about the person. The person cannot be replaced. You can always get another legal structure, but you cannot replace that person. S/he CAN be won again. You can start to attract your spouse all over again. It will take time, but you must learn how. Right now you have no tools or understanding to accomplish this.
Is this program right for you? Here’s an easy way to know for sure: The Environment Changer program is right for you if you answer an immediate and resounding "YES" to the question "Do I want this woman/man?"
You will have to become you at your best, not you at your worst in order to win your spouse back. That's what this program is designed for and it does not at all deal with behavior. It deals with the SOURCE of behavior. You cannot win your spouse back through what you say and do.
In fact, what you say and do now, your spouse takes as a threat and an offense no matter how good it is. If your spouse has already reached the emotionally dead point, the only way to get him or her back in your life again is to eliminate your negative feelings and show (NOT TELL) him or her that you are a different man/woman and wait for your spouse to come back to you. Any attempts you make to save the marriage at this point will be met with rejection and criticism from your spouse because s/he feels “if you could have, you would have”, and now s/he is likely seeking personal happiness over anything else.
The way you will win your spouse back is by changing the vibration you give off every day and that is not about behavior, it is about the SOURCE of behavior. In this program, you will uncover that source. That's how you will win your spouse again if you really do want this woman/man.
Q) What is the Success Rate of this Program with a Single Spouse Participating Alone?
A) Let’s say there was only ONE husband who was dead set on getting a divorce, moved out, got a house and then changed his mind on the marriage. What would that do for you? Let’s say there were 22 husbands who did this? What would that do for you? I say this because we are all so chance/lottery/ minded, we think our situation is some kind of chance we intend to gamble on.
We ask about our “chances” of the marriage getting better. But a troubled marriage is NEVER based on “our chances”. It is based ONLY on the childhoods of the man and the wife. The more troubled they are, the faster the couple will self-destruct. The more positive their two childhoods, the longer they last and the happier they will be. No need for a chance gamble here. The only thing that creates a dramatic change for the better is a single spouse who becomes an Environment Changer.
Q) How Do I Know Your Program Really Works?
A) For couples who have made many past efforts to improve their marriage, it often causes them to wonder if there is something that really does work long term. Rather than “selling” you on the program, for those who are sincere about it, we like to have you talk to couples who have been helped by the process. If you want to talk to a real couple who has actually experienced the full program, we’d be glad to coordinate that for you. Contact us and indicate within your email that you are interested in speaking with another couple by phone.
Q) How IS Your Program Different From Marriage Counseling?
A) Classic marriage counseling focuses on finding problems in order to fix them. Unfortunately, this approach has not worked for marriage in the last 40 years. The Environment Changer Program has a completely different and much more positive focus. We want to show you what’s right about the two of you, how you’re motivated differently and why that’s good, not bad. We never get into “who said what to whom” and we never dredge up the past or attempt to place blame. Dwelling on problems only creates more problems.
Q) What Is A Marriage Translator And How Well Qualified Are They?
A) Marriage Translators are skilled in the ability to hear what you’re really trying to say and then help your spouse understand exactly that, without bad feelings inserted or misunderstandings happening in the process. Almost every marriage in the world could use a Marriage Translator. The Marriage Translator process is totally positive, never dwells on your past and uses specific tools and methods to help you focus on each other’s strengths.
To qualify for becoming a Translator, a potential Marriage Translator must first complete the program with their spouse and prove that what they learned has caused their marriage to move to a higher level of fulfillment. People who qualify can become Marriage Translators through a three month training school, but what ultimately qualifies an individual as a Translator is the fact that their own marriage has become a model of success.
Q) Do You Offer A Payment Plan?
A) The Environment Changer Program offers a monthly payment program that is the equivalent of a monthly car payment ($297 once a month, for 4 months). The Environment Changer Program is the vehicle that will take your relationship and your family to a whole new level of relating and communicating that you have never experienced before. Couples or individuals who are ready to take this investment in their marriage are serious about what matters most. They see their marriage as far more valuable than their car. Couples who are not ready or willing to commit to their marriage will often consider their car more valuable than their marriage. (The program can also be paid in a single payment of $997, saving you almost $200!)
Q) If I Order Your Program Through Your Web site, How Long Will I Have To Wait To Be Contacted And Begin The Program?
A) Once you place the order, we will contact you within 12-24 hours of confirmation to send you your account information so you can log into the EC Members area and get started on your assignments.
Q) What will the charge say on my billing statement?
A) The charge on your billing statement will say either LIFE DISCOV or Life Discoveries Inc. Neenah 207-258-5858.
Q) Where Can I Sign Up For Your Program?
A) Here is a direct link to the order page for the Environment Changer Program. Both methods of payment are available off of this page.
Q) My Spouse Has Engaged In An Affair. Does Your Program Help Couples Overcome Infidelity?
A) Infidelity is a typical result of a neglected relationship. We see it as just another sign of two people remaining ignorant of marriage success principles that they never learned. Infidelity does not guarantee the end of a marriage and is often the inappropriate cause for both spouses to wake up to a renewed desire to learn how to be married the right way.
Q) I Am Interested In Your Program, But My Spouse Is Not Willing To Participate, Will That Be A Problem? Can Your Program Truly Help Us Even If She/He Refuses To Participate?
A) Absolutely. The Environment Changer program was specifically created to help individual spouses transform themselves from the inside out, thereby positively affecting their "leaving spouse". (The program has an 88% success rate when both spouses' participate). The Environment Changer Program makes it possible for only one spouse to make positive efforts to change the environment in their marriage and stop a divorce without their spouses' participation.
IMPORTANT: But it is important you realize that you must be 100% committed to your marriage and willing to be a 'good student' in order to do this on your own. We are not looking for individuals to join this program who already have, as the saying goes "one foot out the door".
If your spouse does want to go through the program with you, they will go through the program with other men/women, depending on their gender.
Q) Does Your Program Help With Second Marriage Problems?
A) Second marriages put a couple under far more stain than they ever imagined, especially when children from previous marriages are in the home. Tension can remain high and communication greatly strained. The Environment Changer Program helps husbands and wives in second marriages understand their roles as step parents and the seemingly complex relationship with their stepchildren. There are many ways to do this wrong. The Environment Changer Program teaches you the principles, methods and tools to understand how to reduce the high stress of second marriages and blended families that rarely blend.
Q) Will Your Program Work If We Are Already In The Process Of Divorce? What If We Have Our Trial Date Already Set? Is My Situation Beyond Repair?
A) The Environment Changer Program is a positive alternative that will help you repair your marriage on your own. The program is also effective for those who are separated and having poor communication. If you are completely committed to your marriage, this program can help you avoid a divorce. Each situation is different of course, so if you would like to speak one-on-one with Larry to find out if there is still hope for your marriage, submit your entry to Larry Bilotta's Second Chance program here.
Q) We Are Engaged To Be Married. Will Your Program Help Us?
A) If this is your first marriage, The Environment Changer Program is a sure way to get your marriage off to a far more secure footing. You will create a strong foundation for your relationship that will help you withstand common “hot button” obstacles such as in laws, financial issues, conflicting values and so many other tests that push marriages to the breaking point. Think of this program as your safe passage through the murky waters that destroy so many other marriages simply because they did not have the knowledge and skills to do things right the first time around.
Q) What Percent Of Those Who Take The Course Revert Back To Old Behaviors/Patterns Over Time?
A) This is the biggest threat to any marriage building investment…time. The Environment Changer Program has an 88% success rate in saving marriages when both spouses' participate. The 12% are those who gave up on their marriage and were not willing to apply what they learned to their marriage.
While the Environment Changer Program will help you get your marriage "out of the fire", the farther away you get from the material, the more you forget what was making your marriage successful.
We have created a series of support programs that couples or individuals can pursue once they complete the Environment Changer Program to help them stay on track.
The programs vary in length, but your focus will be on continuing to apply the insights you used in the Environment Changer Program to the unique situations and challenges that arrive in daily life.
Q) Does the Environment Changer Program Work With Couples Who Live Outside the USA?
A) Yes it does! We have afternoon and evening classes that can accomodate the schedules of most people overseas. You can call into each group call using a free program for making calls over the internet called Skype. It’s free and easy to download and use, and works with most computers. On average, calls to the U.S. are just under $1 for a full hour. (Best of all, NO international calling charges!)
Q) Will I Be Working With Larry Bilotta Himself Or One Of His Marriage Translators?
A) Larry Bilotta conducts all group Tele-Coaching calls.
Q) What is the Difference Between the Environment Changer Program and Traditional Counseling?
A) Traditional counseling works for some couples, but historically, marriage counseling has failed to keep marriages together. The main reason for this failure is that marriage counseling is based on finding what is wrong with couples and then trying to fix it. Therapists are trained in university programs to believe that if the right questions are asked, the patient will find their own answers. If this were true, hundreds of thousands of practicing therapists would have already lowered our 50% divorce rate, but this has not happened.
What most couples don’t like about this theory is that these ‘questions’ often involve digging deep into your “psyche” by bringing up painful situations from the past. This is especially difficult for a man because men are not “built” to share their emotions.
Couples often tell us that counseling did not work for them because it took the counselor many weeks to even get an understanding of their problems. What couples find most often is that once they focus on their problems, they are no longer able to think of solutions.
By contrast, the Environment Changer Program uses a set of unique online tools and your Marriage Translator to simplify and clearly explain exactly what you need to do to overcome the biggest obstacles in your marriage. We want to show you what’s right about the two of you, how you’re motivated differently and why that’s good, not bad. We never get into “who said what to whom” and we never dredge up the past or attempt to place blame. Dwelling on problems only creates more problems. As the two of you focus on your strengths, your problems evolve into solutions.
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Q) Will the Environment Changer Program Conflict With My Religious Beliefs?
A) Married couples with a variety of different faiths and backgrounds have completed the Environment Changer Program and found that none of the material conflicts with their religious foundations. In fact, couples are amazed at how it helps them see their faith in a way that helps them apply and live what they have already believed.
Q) Would You Recommend I Still See My Counselor While Participating in the Environment Changer Program?
A) Most couples find that they make greater progress in their therapy work while they are going through the Environment Changer Program. Psychiatrist and therapists alike have commented that the Environment Changer Program augments and supports what they are trying to accomplish with their patients. But ultimately, it needs to be your own decision on whether or not you continue with your counseling while participating in the Environment Changer Program.
Q) Does This Program Really Work?
A) Yes it really does. To date, the program has a success rate of 88% (with both spouses' participating) in taking marriages from a miserable state and transforming them, giving the couple hope, the skills to communicate without fighting and the possibility of real happiness together. The 12% of couples whose marriages are not turned around by the Environment Changer Program are those who do not complete the program or those who refuse to practice the skills they learned through it.
A) Yes, if you are uncomfortable with ordering online, you can order by telephone by calling (262) 644-6815 during the business hours of 9:00am-5:30pm M-F CST. We will process your credit card manually over the phone through our Secure and Trusted Gateway Merchant Authorize.net.
Q) Is an Internet Connection Required?
A) Yes, you do need an internet connection. You can participate if you have just a Smartphone, as long as you have a steady internet connection.
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